Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Question/Answer

Q. What do you do if you have an "enemy" that keeps spreading rumors about you? This girl is a friend of my friends, but for some reason absolutely hates me. I don't know what to do, and I'm worried that she's going to turn my friends away from me, because she is always talking about me to them. HELP!!

A. Ok, well first what you need to do is reevaluate your friendships with the girls that allow this girl to talk about you. If you trust them and absolutely will die without their friendship then that's fine, but you need to decide if hanging out with someone who allows others to "dis" you is really best. Next, don't listen to the rumors and don't let them bother you! I realize that is easier said then done, but I went through the same thing and it really helped. Once this girl realizes that you don't care about the things she was saying, she will probably get tired of trying to hurt you. Remember, the only reason this girl would put you down is because she either is threatened by you, or wants to hurt you. If you show her that nothing she says is affecting you, she may reevaluate her priorities. Also, if she says mean things to your face, just laugh it off (and let her see you doing it!) Once your friends see that you don't care, they won't either, and it will show those around her that she may not be as accountable as they originally thought. Hope that helps, and let me know how it goes!
Yours Truly, Bells.

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